Lean the seat in your car back 1", watch the mileage or the clock.
Lean forward just far enough that your in your normal position, not touching the back of the seat.
Hold that position for 5 miles or 5 minutes. Rest for 5, Repeat anytime you are commuting.
What this does is starts strengthening your relaxed abdominal muscles.
When you can actually start to feel the muscles react. Your ready for the next stage.
Stop drinking beer and switch to red wine, its supposed to be good for your heart.
Beer has such a small amount of alcohol that it distends your belly while relaxing the muscles even more.
Subscribe to a muscle builders magazine. (I pick them up at my favorite humane society thrift store.)
That is not the kind of body your after, but the description of specific exercises and other health tips such as nutrition are good.
What we are after is terminology and good health.
Don't worry you don't have to do these, you just have to learn about them.
I do things the easy way.
The most you have to do is stretches while your waiting for the coffee pot to perk.
This is important because your muscles will outgrow the tendens and ligaments otherwise.
All the steroids and junk is also not what your after.
You can get a good laugh out of how weird the extremes some of these guys go to.
Next: Select an ideal body image. I like Boris Vallejo's "Guide to Barsoom"
Now were ready to get started.
Turn off the TV and go to bed an hour early.
Take your muscle magazine with you. Read it through once so your familier with where things are at.
Lay flat on your back with your head on the pillow, and your hands on your stomach or at your side.
Don't move, Start with a leg lift exercise, don't move just imagine doing it. what you want to concentrate on is mentally doing the exercise, your lower abdominal muscle will tense in anticipation of having to do the work. just be aware of it.
Now do just the left leg, Don"t move be aware of the individual abdominal muscle, Now the other leg,
Next: Imagine holding a barbell of 50 lbs at waist level with your elbows at 90 degrees.
Your actually still laying with your arms relaxed over your stomach, or at your side.
Feel the ab muscle tense in anticipation.
What we are after is conscious control of the individual muscles.
The muscles will react to the imagined exercise. Then see if you can take control and tense it directly with your mind.
Pull a cable with a 50 lb weight across your belly, first one side then the other. This is still in your imagination.
Next a twist sit up to the left then to the right then straight up. Don't move this is still in your imagination.

Now reread your magazine again looking for specific exercises for specific muscles. Watch for form tips. keep those in mind.
Give your subconscious a direct command to REGENERATE, REJUVANATE, HEAL, STRENGTHEN.
Visualize your ideal image. Feel it.
Go to sleep. when you wake up, run through the exercises (in your imagination again).
Get up start your coffee and do real stretches.
Bring your mate coffee in bed, It does wonders.
You can run through your exercises without waking her up while you drink your first cup of coffee.

Eat breakfast,
Be aware of what your eating, mentally compare it with the magazine recommendations.
I put a slurp of seawater in the orange juice, it helps the organs do their job right.
Visualize the pancreas absorbing the seawater trace elements.
Visualise the HDL cholesterol picking up used Cholesterol from the arteries and transporting it to the Liver and exiting as bile salts through the feces.
This is normal function. But it needs trace elements to work.
BEWARE! TOO LOW OF CHOLESTEROL CAN KILL YOU.
If the body is working right, fats won't hurt you, but they control the hunger motivation to eat.
So no fat means your still hungry. Fat doesn't go directly to fat storage.
But sugar does! White sugar and white flour are the problem.
I also use a good multivitamin, and calcium, plus vitamin E

Practice getting control of specific muscles anytime you happen to think about it.
Do the car seat adjustment on the way to work.

One more thing, this takes a prop. Buy a 8 ft 4x4 and two 18" 2x4's, nail the 2x4's at each end of the 4x4 as stands so it won't roll when you walk on it.
Put it somewhere in your daily path. Walk it everytime you go near it.
Walk a curb everytime you get a chance. This really helps your hips and balance.
It will prevent shakyness as you get older.
I've got a gallon milk jug 3/4 filled with water, that I hung from a tree at head height.
I walk the 4x4 and see how many times I can punch the milk jug without falling off.
I also have a rope with bells at appropriate heights that I kick for agility.
Look in the mirror, compare to ideal image and work on specific muscles to match.
Once in a while do a real physical workout to let your body know it needs to really be ready.
When it starts to feel good to do real honest physical work your getting there.
When you have it down to a routine, you can tense specific muscles for a count of (25)(50)(100)
The harder you tense the more etching you get. Don't go to the point they cramp.
Remember to visualize your ideal image.
This gets results surprisingly fast.
Side point, as your muscles develop your appetite will decrease.
Hard muscle mass will burn more calories and deplete the fat layer.
Do some aerobic exercise for your heart, really. Dance, your lady will love you for it.
Actually do this, Breath in as far as you can, hold for a count of 10, then inhale a little farther.
Exhale hold for a count of 10 and exhale farther.
Repeat each time you do a set of mental exercises.
Even tho the exercises are mental the muscles still need the oxygen.
It will also expand your chest and sholders.
This opens up lung space that has been stuck together like a wet balloon.